These words simply remind all
parents in this world on how to treat their children not as goods they can
create into whatever they want or properties they can buy or sell whenever they
want.
Kahlil Gibran had been long ago
written the poem to make reflection of
parenting practiced by parents in the
world. The essence of what Kahlil stressed is about to build relationship among
parents and their children. When a child born, they would never be able to
choose by whom, where and in what circumstances
On
Children
Kahlil Gibran
Kahlil Gibran
Your
children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You
may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You
are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
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Basically, many parenting experts have stated the importance of fulfill the children’s need of love. It has to be performed in a very natural way in daily life started from the early ages of your child, even when they still in the womb. I found many parents are willing to love their children in ways providing everything they want and they demand, not what they need. In many special situation and for specific reasons parents acted as an extremely protective persons. I experience this when I saw some parents are hardly let alone their children at school even just to get teir own books.
Arrgh....capek pake English. Ternyata sudah lama sekali tidak menulis dalam bahasa Inggris. Padahal sebenarnya aku hanya ingin membagi kisah yang kusaksi. Kisah bagaimana orang tua yang tidak mau mulai memberi kepercayaan pada anaknya. Aku menyaksikan itu di sekolah anakku. Sudah sebulan lebih anak-anak masuk sekolah di SD, mestinya sudah tidak jamak ada anak yang diantar oleh orang tua sampai ke kelas. Aku memilih mengantar anakku dan berakhir dengan adegan cipiki cipika saja, setelah itu tentu aku serahkan ia berproses sendiri di sekolah, tidak terlalu kupedulikan apakah nanti ia akan mencatat di buku yang salah atau tidak, apakah tugas harus ia selesaikan dengan skor 100 atau tidak. Biasanya kami akan mengevaluasi proses hari itu setelah mereka pulang ke rumah. Aku berpikir, ketika melepaskan anak-anak ke lingkungan manapun, aku harus mulai memberi kepercayaan kepada mereka. Ungkapan kekesalanku itu hanya berujung pada sebuah status di sosmed;
Selalu greget dg ortu yg tidak mau mulai
memberi kepercayaan kpd anaknya bahkan hanya untuk menentukan buku mana yg
digunakan sementara instruksi dari guru sdh sgt jelas. Anak sampai hrs keluar
dulu dg membawa buku memastikan ke Ibu apa benar buku itu yg hrs ia gunakan.
Parah lagi ada Ibu yg merangsek masuk u/ "membantu" menunjukan buku
yg harud dipakai ke anaknya sementara guru sdh ada di dlm sdg memberi instruksi.
Please deh bu...klpun mrk salah memakai buku, Ibu malu punya anak salah???!!!!. Malu sama siapa?. Guru?. Diri sendiri?.
Mereka hanya anak, kesalahan juga merupakan proses belajar. Apa untungnya menjadi orgtua diktator dan otoriter, karena kl demikian anda hanya butuh robot yg tinggal diprogram sesuka hati dan dikendalikan hanya dg remote.
Please deh bu...klpun mrk salah memakai buku, Ibu malu punya anak salah???!!!!. Malu sama siapa?. Guru?. Diri sendiri?.
Mereka hanya anak, kesalahan juga merupakan proses belajar. Apa untungnya menjadi orgtua diktator dan otoriter, karena kl demikian anda hanya butuh robot yg tinggal diprogram sesuka hati dan dikendalikan hanya dg remote.
Orang dewasa sering memposisikan anak sebagai makhluk yang lemah, harus selalu dilindungi dan dibantu, tetapi tentu ini tidak sama halnya dengan tidak memberi kepercayaan. Pasti sulit, apalagi bagi seroang Ibu yang secara natural mengalami dan menyaksikan pertumbuhan dan perkembangan anak mulai dari ketika dalam kandungan sampai seterus. Disinilah perlu adanya kerelaan orangtua untuk belajar, mengawali dengan membekali diri dengan ilmu tentang perkembangan dan pertumbuhan anak secara mental dan kejiwaan. Berikut, orang tua juga harus mau mengasah kepekaan diri untuk mampu mengetahui apa yang dialami oleh anak dan mengenl potensi anak.
Mari menjadi orang tua yang mau belajar, mulai dengan belajar memberi kepercayaan kepada anak, memberi ruang ia berkreasi dengan segala kemungkinan yang mungkin menurut mata kedewasaan kita “salah”. Tapi, mereka hanyalah anak-anak. Kata-kata Gibran menarik untuk menjadi pengingat setiap saat “mata kedewasaan” mulai mendominasi relasi anak-orangtua.
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